🎉 It’s National Orgasm Day… but this isn’t about fireworks.
It’s about you, your body, your joy, your power.
At Ludus Love, we believe pleasure isn’t a luxury or a final reward, it’s a language. One that deserves to be explored, spoken, and celebrated without shame.
But for so many women, femmes, and queer folks, pleasure is still pushed aside. Too many are left wondering if something’s wrong with them, when the truth is far more systemic.
So today, we’re not just celebrating orgasms, we’re writing a love letter to your right to feel good. To claim joy. And to connect deeply with your body.
Pleasure Is Your Birthright. Not a Bonus
Let’s start here: pleasure isn’t something you earn.
It’s not a bonus you unlock after ticking all the boxes.
And it’s certainly not something you should feel guilty about.
Yet culturally, so many of us grow up absorbing messages like:
- “Good girls don’t touch themselves.”
- “It’s only sex if it’s for someone else’s benefit.”
- “Orgasms are unpredictable, complicated, or just too much effort.”
It’s no wonder so many of us feel disconnected from our own sensuality.
This National Orgasm Day, we’re flipping the script.
✨ Your body is worthy of pleasure, not in some faraway future, but right now.
What Is the Orgasm Gap?
The orgasm gap is a term used to describe the unequal distribution of pleasure, especially between cisgender heterosexual men and everyone else.
A 2017 study found that:
- 95% of straight men always or usually climax during sex
- But only 65% of straight women do the same
- Queer women report much higher rates of orgasm — showing this is not about anatomy, but communication, exploration, and education
This gap isn’t caused by a lack of desire.
It’s caused by a lack of prioritisation, in media, in education, and often in relationships.
Self-Pleasure Isn’t Selfish, It’s Revolutionary
Let’s clear this up right now: solo play isn’t selfish, shameful, or sad.
It’s an act of deep self-trust. A ritual of self-knowledge. A celebration of your agency.
In fact, studies have shown that self-pleasure can help improve:
- Sleep and mood regulation
- Menstrual pain and muscle tension
- Body confidence and self-esteem
- Connection in partnered intimacy
When we treat self-touch like a guilty secret, we rob ourselves of the most powerful tool we have for learning what feels good.
So today, light a candle. Close the door. Touch yourself like you mean it.
You Don’t Need a Partner to Explore Your Desires
This is one of the most liberating truths we know:
You don’t need to wait for someone else to “give” you pleasure.
You already hold the key.
Solo exploration:
- Puts you in the driver’s seat
- Builds confidence and reduces performance pressure
- Makes future intimacy better, not worse
- Helps identify your boundaries and preferences
And with tools like the Magic Wand, you’re not going it alone. You’re expanding what pleasure can look and feel like, on your terms.
Pleasure Is a Reclamation
Every moan. Every sigh. Every soft exhale that escapes your lips…
isn’t “too much” or “too loud.”
It’s yours.
When you let yourself feel — fully, without apology — you’re reclaiming something that was never meant to be hidden.
This is about joy.
This is about freedom.
This is about power.
Let’s normalise the conversation. Let’s celebrate every kind of pleasure, from the softest sigh to the shaking knees.
Ready to Explore?
There’s no “right” way to feel good.
But if you’re curious to explore, we’ve got the tools, the tips, and the warmest welcome.
✨ Discover the Magic Wand in our shop
✨ DM us on Instagram if you’d like a personalised recommendation
✨ Or sign up to Ludus Daily Love to learn more about sensual self-care, ethical kink, and inclusive pleasure education
You Deserve It
This Orgasm Day, give yourself permission.
To feel.
To play.
To reclaim your pleasure.
💋 You don’t need to wait for the “right moment” or the “right person.”
You just need to start listening to your body — and trusting what it tells you.
Because you? You deserve all of it.
